I’m on Katie Couric’s show on Tuesday 3/5/13. And yes, I’m freaking out a little.


One day I was just hanging out, writing blog posts about moms and depression, hoping I was helping some other moms with my words.

Then “Xanax Made Me a Better Mom” – a Parenting Magazine article I am in – got picked up by CNN.

And all of a sudden, a whole lot more people were reading my blog.

Which led to some opportunities to take my message to a national stage – and the best one was to be interviewed by a woman I’ve always admired: Katie Couric.

It may sound like a no-brainer. I mean, being interviewed by KATIE COURIC? Who would pass that up, other than maybe Sarah Palin?

But it wasn’t an easy decision for me.

I have always flown under the radar here at Honest Mom. And I’ve been comfortable writing in relative obscurity. Being unknown is safe – and what I originally wanted.

But as I was debating the pros and cons with the Hubs, it dawned on me…

My whole goal in writing about depression is to help lift the stigma, while helping other moms feel less alone in their battles.

Yes, it’s nerve-wracking, putting my face out there.

Yes, it’s scary to open myself up to a larger audience, and therefore more potential criticism.

But speaking with Katie was a huge opportunity to reach even more struggling moms and help them to know they’re not alone – and also educate the general public about depression. As I wrote in this post:

I want to grab a megaphone and let everyone out there know that regular, everyday moms like me have depression, work hard to successfully manage it, and live happy, normal lives.

Katie’s show presented that megaphone. So I took it.

On Tuesday, March 5, I’ll be appearing on Katie Couric’s show in an episode called “Mommy’s Little Helper.” The show examines both the negative and positive ways moms deal with stress, anxiety, and depression. And in it, I do a one-to-one interview with Katie on moms, depression, and medications.

Here’s a clip (and it sounds super-dramatic. One part of the show is, but my part is a very honest and frank discussion)…

Excuse me while I finally squee with excited and nervous glee. Squeeeeeee!

Now, let me answer some questions that I’d want to know if someone I knew was going on a national TV show. You know, the really pressing ones:

Is Katie as nice as she seems? Yes. Completely. She was professional, kind, and adorable, all at the same time. And she’s really funny! Katie cracked jokes with her audience between taping and had everyone laughing. And I could tell she is truly interested in helping women with depression. I was so thrilled to talk with her!

Was I nervous? Um, yeah. Totally. I can’t even remember what I said when Katie and I talked. So hopefully I won’t look like an idiot on the show.

Did they do my hair and makeup? Yep. My hair doesn’t normally look like it does on the show. It’s much frizzer and curlier. And holy makeup – wow, I had a lot on!

Is the green room really green? Yes! And it’s pretty cool, too. They had food and stuff out, but I was too nervous to eat.

Was anyone famous there? No major celebrities, nope. Except, you know, KATIE.

Did anything go wrong? Ha. Yes. Everything went wrong the day I traveled to NYC. I had to check my bag because of an expensive hair product (that turns out, I didn’t even need). My flight sat on the runway for over an hour. My luggage got lost – the bag WITH MY DRESS IN IT that I should have never checked in to begin with. I sat at LaGuardia for hours waiting for it to show up. Seriously, I was wondering if fate was telling me not to go. It was a stressful day. But the day of the show … well, it went perfectly. Thank God!

Did any of my friends have a strange premonition about all this happening? Funny you should ask. Anna at My Life in Kids did. But I’ll let her tell that story herself.

Would you do it all again? Ask me after the show airs. I am so curious to see what I looked like on camera and if I sounded ridiculous. If I did okay – then yes! If not, then I will commence hiding out from all things media forevermore.

So set your DVR for the “Katie” show on ABC, Tuesday, March 5, spread the word, and please think happy thoughts for me! I’ll need all the good vibes I can get.   :-)

PS: “Katie” runs is on at 3pm in my area, but airs at different times in other markets – so check your listings! Find “Katie” on a station near you by entering your zip code HERE.

PPS: I may or may not be hyperventilating a little bit right now.

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Comments

  1. says

    First, great title! ;-) Second, I am glad you are speaking up for the moms like us who are struggling with so called mental illness. It’s a hard road. Third, GO YOU!!! I have heard such amazing things about Katie’s show and the experience there. She’s so supportive of bloggers. That’s great. Especially if bloggers like you with a message of hope and healing get some PRESS!!! Whoot!

  2. says

    I just started following you on FB about a week ago. I’m a single girl with no kids and I don’t suffer from depression but I like reading what you have to say so I’m looking forward to seeing you on Katie! I have friends that suffer from depression and they are moms so maybe some of what you share can help me help them, so thanks!

  3. amanda bombard says

    So, this comment I wrote a while back, in response to another blogger. I saved it, to possibly post on my own blog, should I actually get that going. Sometimes it seems my best stories are in response to someone else. I believe this fully applies to your story aswell. And while I know I’m posting this on a different blog topic (kindof) I just want to be sure you get to read it….

    What an amazing post. I felt a tightening in my chest as I read your words. Those all-too familiar feelings swept through my memory, exactly as you described them. My experience had one major difference. I was going through a very little known, even less talked about, PRE-partum depression. And no one would listen. No one would help. I spilled my guts to any friend, family member, doctor who would listen. And they all chalked it up to being pregnant. Every. Single. Time.

    Finally one morning when I was about 7 months along, I arrived for my prenatal visit with my midwife. It was immediately clear to her that something was wrong. Besides the inability to speak without my eyes flowing like a spigot, or the fact I had done so every appointment we had for the last month, it seems the fact that I was in my pajamas with no makeup and probably a pretty funky smell from not having showered, was finally the clue she needed to realize that “hey-this isn’t normal pregnancy hormones at all!”

    Having figured out that something else was going on with me, she was completely inexperienced with any sort of pre-partum depression, or prescribing those types of meds during pregnancy. After many, many phone calls to other doctors and mental health clinics, she and the OB she worked for, decided that the best thing to do would be to send me to the emergency room on the other side of the building, and have a psych consult. Any other option would take weeks, and she wanted (as well as I) to get things started STAT.

    That turned out to be a HUGE mistake. Huge. I wondered at first why I had been placed in a different part of the E. R., in a large room with multiple beds, rather than my own private space. There wasn’t even a curtain separating the beds. It became clear soon after, when they came in and confiscated my belongings, shoes, and clothes. I was on suicide watch, and was told that should I try to leave, I’d be arrested. ARESSTED. It took nearly 8 hours and one very irate husband (bless his soul) and telling everyone who would listen: “if I wanted to die- the last place on earth I would go would be to the fracking hospital!!!”. They actually made my husband sign a waiver, stating that if I hurt myself after leaving, they were not liable. Can you imagine? 7 months pregnant, severely depressed, hadn’t eaten in nearly 24 hours (not since dinner the night before, as I was nauseous that morning, and planned to eat after my prenatal visit) begging for help for months, just to be treated like a common criminal??

    The whole experience was so frightening, I refused to continue seeking any help. Calls to my doctor were answered with condescending tones and accusations of ‘drug seeking’. I wish I had been strong enough to fight for myself. To fight for other women who experience pre-partum depression. In our society its all but unheard of. Why would a woman (who’s growing a human in her own body no less) be treated like a criminal for -through no fault of her own- suffering chemical imbalance, when as a society its fully accepted and sometimes expected that we would suffer the same thing after that same growing human is born??

    We need to stop shaming women. Period. Why can’t we stand by each other, as mothers and sisters and daughters, and protect and fight for one another?? No one, should ever be made to feel like a failure for something they have no more control over than, say, the weather.

  4. says

    I think it’s fantastic you will be on Katie! What you are doing is helping so many others, myself included. If you ever want a great insight into our culture and depression, read or listen to Andrew Weil’s, Spontaneous Happiness. He has some pretty interesting insights. Setting my DVR to Katie on Tuesday as I write! Good mojo coming your way!
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  5. says

    I’m so excited for you. I know you did great. I’ve already got my dvr set since I won’t be home. JD, you’ve definitely made it easier for me to all about. AND when you said the holidays were not the time to try and make major changes like trying to go off our meds…I agreed with you. Then, I did it anyways. I learned the hard way, but then I remembered that and went back on them knowing I had gotten caught up in he moment of the holiday happiness. I’m so glad you’ve chosen this path to let other moms know they’re not alone. I hope you touched on the “rage” issue because that was the straw that broke the camels back for me, and I realized I wasn’t ready. If not, I’m glad moms can go back and look through your blog. Keep doing what you’re doing! You have made a difference! xoxo!
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  6. Kristy Tranchant Crouch says

    WOWOWOW! Thank you again! it cant be easy to make that decision to share with the nation! I know for me finding your blog really made me feel less like a complete loser who couldn't figure out why everything seems to hard for me at times when it appears everyone else is handling things fine. Your blog led me to find and love other pages/blogs. They have also been extremely helpful. It gave me a feeling of being understood, even though Ive never spoken to any of you! In the understanding comes acceptance and hope! Cant wait to see it! Congrats!

  7. Jeannine Montgomery says

    The article for Parenting was how I discovered your blog which makes me feel less crazy and alone in the world. Wish I had cable so I could watch you on Katie but hopefully I can watch online. Thanks for being an honest voice!

  8. says

    This is so awesome!!! Such a huge step for mama bloggers AND for, like you said, understanding that perfectly normal people, suffer from depression, and are helped tremendously by being medicated. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. I am so happy you get to do the talking though. I’d puke.
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  9. Bridget says

    I am very proud of you. I have longed for honesty when it comes to parenting. Both for moms AND dads. Even though this will open you up to criticism, this is such a vital subject. NO matter what the fall out, know that you DO have support.

  10. Janet says

    I just found out about this site, but I will watch you on Katie. I try to catch her when I can; I like her a lot too. I had ‘partum depression’ and postpartum. I was thinking of writing about being pregnant and depressed b/c I don’t think many people understand that. It’s definitely not talked about much. I was not brave enough yet, but this site is inspiring. I look forward to seeing the Katie show.

  11. says

    Super awesome! It must feel wonderful, finally getting a validation on the fact that your content is reaching its target audience. I only hope and wish we could all someday experience something similar (of course we can’t all be on Katie, it would get too crowded…) Best of luck today, you’ll be fine, after all you’re the expert on yourself!
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  12. Nicole B says

    Hi J.D.! I’ve been reading your blog for a few weeks now (found it through a mutual mommy blogger friend). I too am a mom dealing with depression and anxiety. I just wanted to say you we’re awesome on TV! I wasn’t totally a fan of Katie’s attitude towards these “vices” as she called them, but maybe that was just my interpretation. I love everything you’re doing for moms on this topic so thanks!

  13. says

    I myself am a mom that suffers from depression and I think what you are doing is GREAT. My depression actually ht me the hardest when my Aunt pass away 10 years ago I knew I always was sad but I self meicated by drinking on the weekends when my kids were with their father on the weekends and as they got older I would sleep all day and could never keep a job down for anything I am a jack of all trades now that I am a grandmother of 4 wonderful grandchild I still am depressed and can't hold down a job, My dr I have been seeing for 4 years and shes great but ir seems like the medicatons are not working anymore I just want to be happy if I ever was I can't even tell you how it feels its been so long since I felt that way. I hope you keep this blog going and just because you are talking about it now doesn't make you a bad mother it just shows how times have changed and woman are talking more now about their feeling then they did in the pass. Thank you for making so many know and feel that they are not the only ones with this problem.

  14. Chera says

    Just watched the show. Thought you did a great job!! Thanks for putting yourself out there for all I us struggling with depression. And p.s. you so did not sound like an idiot!

  15. says

    Wonderful segment. Well done. You were poised and honest (of course) and very realistic. I am appauled by the people that have maligned your choice to medicate to cope with the depression. Keep writing and sharing your thoughts with your followers. You've clearly helped a lot of others that have gone through this or may be lost and feeling alone and may not realize that this is much more common than they ever imagined.

  16. Ashley Carmichael Ray says

    Thank you so much for your bravery to share your story. Speaking truth is freeing. As a mom who struggled with depression, it is so helpful to know your not alone. May God bless you for your honesty as doors have been opened for you to share your story!

  17. Molly says

    Thank you so much for your words on Katie today. I am a mother of 3 grown children and 3 grandchildren, the oldest of whom my husband and I have been raising since birth..He is now 5 yrs old. I have suffered from chronic clinical depression and anxiety disorder since my mid-teens. While it has been an on-going process staying on effective medications, my depression has been managed through a combination of things. Rx meds, therapy, a supportive husband, good friends, prayer and a lot of reading and research on my part. But my life has always been complicated by depression and the constant battle that goes with it. Probably the hardest part is being honest with people about it because everyone judges. I was appalled when I heard the responses you received to your article and blog. People who do not understand the disease should not comment, it only shows their ignorance. I have had to completely estrange myself from my birth family because of their constant expression of ignorant opinions and comments.They are of the opinion that I should suck it up and just go off my meds! I am now disabled by chronic pain and that also is meet with similar comments. You were 100 percent correct when you said today that kids are better off with a happy, properly medicated mother than with one who is depressed and miserable.

  18. Adele Constantineau says

    What a difference since the years that I had post-partum depression. I am 61 years and had 2 children in my 20's, each time ending up at a psychiatrist after 6 months. I was lucky to get a woman doctor the 2nd time when I was assigned to a "Mom's who can't cope" support group. She made me realize what depression was and being in the group made me see that it involved women of all ages and all walks of life. Of course this wasn't something that was discussed or approved of back then. After 20 or some years of off and on therapy, medication and trying everything I could to help myself and my children to cope with my ups and downs I was diagnosed with breast cancer and ooops! more feelings of depression. By then I had been told that it was SAD (seasonal mood disorder) so I would get on the anti-depressants in the winter and come off in the summer. I had a recurrence 10 years later and my family doctor told me it was time to stop fighting the depression and just stay on my prescription since it keep me so well balanced.

    Not too many people would believe that I am on anti-depressants as I am a happy go lucky optimistic woman who keeps her glass half full. I wanted to share my story with you to show that this is an ongoing problem with women, for all the reasons most of you have mentioned, periods, children, husbands, feeling inadequate, all easily leading to depression. Knowing the cause of our problems doesn't always make it easier to handle but talking about them, sharing them with others of like mind, is by far one of the best ways to keep our sanity. Good luck and keep sharing, you will help many young women in their quest for happiness.

  19. Dorothy Biller says

    Thank you for trying to help those that suffer from depression by being on Katie's show. I had just put my TV on and saw you. You are a strong lady and we that have this problem with the big D are happy that you appeared. I just wish that the people that want to say negative things about you should experience this problem at least once, then maybe they would understand better that no one wants to be on meds all the time, however that is what helps. I wish you and your family peace of mind and God bless you all. I will pray for you and all that suffer with this illness. Thanks again. And you were just fine on Katie, your a beautiful lady.

  20. says

    As another transparent mom, and a pharmacist, I applaud you for you honesty! And quite a following you will have now! You did a great job on the show, and hopefully it will raise awareness about mom's and drug use. I was actually an addict myself, starting from a medical condition, but the addiction took on a life of it's own. Because the meds are "prescription," they are too often deemed as safe. Great doctors are hard to come by, but The Great Physician is always available, and he healed me in an overnight miracle once I learned what He was teaching me. My story is at http://www.celestialprescriptions.com and I'm always available for pharmacist questions…or any question for that matter :) Bless you for your honesty! You are now on my blogroll!

  21. ScottieAnne Hoffman says

    Just watching you on Katie right now… I just want to give you credit for speaking out. Hopefully a few people will wake up and accept that not everyone is a drug abuser, they really need meds to help with an imbalance. Just because you are a mom, you should not have to suffer. I have several members of my immediate family with issuses, one with severe depression caused by chemical imbalance and one with severe ADHD. They NEED thier meds to get through the day. Believe me, my household is a much more pleasant place for it. I have not read your blog, I do not know your whole story, but just wanted to send you a message while I watch you on tv and say good for you!

  22. says

    For now I would like to say how great it was to hear you talk about your condition. For many years especially after starting my family I felt ashamed to say I was on Zoloft. Long story short, (I run my part of our business from home with 3 kids so free time is not that possible for me) I am so glad I turned into the show. It has somehow brought a weight off my shoulders. I will follow your blog!

  23. says

    Ahhhhh! Whyyyy didn’t I read this yesterday? I totally missed seeing it. I hope you are able to post the segment later on your blog. This is my first time commenting but I used to read your blog and then I lost track of your address and I’m so excited I found it again! I find your blog very relate able (-especially having dealt with ppd myself) and entertaining! :) I’m excited to keep reading!

  24. says

    That's so wonderful! Congratulations! I'm going to have to find the show online since I missed it. I'm so glad you decided to engage in such a public conversation about moms and depression. Go you!

  25. says

    I never, watch Katie, but I was home sick yesterday and caught the program, and I have to say that YOU were awesome.. Please feel proud of yourself, because what you talked about is so important. I am old enough to be your mom and have a daughter your age, and the hardest job in the world is being a mom and there is no training..Taking meds is not wrong or bad , or make you a weak person which is how my generation treated it..Always made me feel like it did have to be secret, but so happy when I hear women like you speak of it…..More power to you.YOU were GREAT!

  26. Melinda says

    I caught you on Katie yesterday before I went to pick up my oldest from school. I admire you for speaking out. I battled depression in my early 20’s and then again when I had a miscarriage. I was blessed enough not to have post-partum but it was something I was worried about. I still have days that I struggle with it. I hate that these medicines have become so abused that people feel like if you take them then you must be a pillhead. I know it must be hard to come under such scrutiny. The people who say you shouldn’t have become a mom have no idea about the disease and should keep their mouths closed! Being a mom is the best thing I have ever done in life and my children keep me going when life deals me some bad hands and I want to give up. From all the moms who battle this disease, thank you for standing up for us!!

  27. says

    I am proud of you. THANK YOU for shedding light on the struggle with depression and postpartum depression. Thank you! I’m appalled at the hate and the anger that was directed at you for speaking out but I’m so glad you did. Kudos girl :)
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  28. says

    Just wanted to let you know that I DVRed yesterday’s show just to watch you on it and just caught it. I thought you came off GREAT. I also suffer from a mild but chronic form of depression called dysthymia and also struggled with PPD. During my worst depressive episode and then again after the birth of my daughter, I turned to medication to help me climb out of my own head (first Paxil and later Celexa). While I no longer take any meds (at least not right now), I understand that at these two points in my life, I needed them to be the best person I could be to those who loved and depended on me. As my team of doctors put it, I had a leak in my serotonin levels and the medication helped plug that leak and correct the chemical imbalance in my brain. I’m so happy that you made that point as your final thought in your segment, and am also happy that you stressed the importance of cultivating a relationship with your doctor and really talking to and working with him or her in terms of what’s right for your individual needs in terms of an antidepressant regimen – because I agree with you that far too many people go for the quick fix.

    tl;dr: You did AWESOME. :)
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